5 REAL Reasons Why Couples Grow Apart In A Relationship

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Couple sitting on sofa with arms folded, looking angry

Couple sitting on sofa with arms folded, looking angry

Check out these 5 REAL reasons for growing apart in a relationship that you may or may not choose to rectify, based on where you are emotionally and mentally.

1. Ego clashes

 

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Does your ego make you not give in when you know you’re in the wrong, but you just can’t take it when your partner points it out? Whether it’s a fight or an argument or a simple discussion, if your ego becomes the interested third party, then it has become bigger than your relationship.

How often have you made the effort to make it up to your partner, rather than give them the sullen silent treatment? Have you ever avoided them because you wanted them to make amends because it was ‘clearly their fault’? This is where you need to understand that you’ve allowed your swollen ego to come between you two, and that that is making you drift apart from each other. Arguments, fights, discussions, debates – are all essential for a healthy relationship; but only when they’re used the right way.

2. No compatibility.

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The feeling of incompatibility can creep up on you over the years or once the honeymoon phase gets over. This could be a sense that you both have nothing in common to bond over, no binding factor that brings you both closer together. If you start to isolate these feelings over every little thing in the relationship, then there’s no end to it. It will only make you feel worse. It might start out as a niggling thought at the back of your head, but could potentially pull you both in opposite directions.

In fact, testing out your compatibility with each other as a couple should be done in the initial period of your relationship, rather than later when you’ve already invested too much energy, time, and emotional effort into it. If you let your incompatibility go, thinking that you could always mold your partner to the image you have in your head, then there’s no bigger fool than you. NEVER get into a relationship thinking you could change your partner into a perfect image you have in your head.

3. No intimacy.

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Intimacy doesn’t always equate to physical intimacy, but emotional too. Have you connected emotionally with your partner? Do you share any news – good or bad – with your partner first? Do they even cross your mind? These things may seem too trivial to even bother with, but these are what hold a relationship together.

Sex is an integral part of any healthy, functional relationship. If there’s not enough sex, or either of you is not trying hard to keep the excitement up in the bedroom, then it’s only natural to get bored with your relationship. Along with sexual intimacy, simple touches, caresses, holding hands, hugs, kisses, all matter in the long run. If you’re even hesitant, or take these small intimacies for granted, then your relationship is doomed.

4. Suppressing your emotions.

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When was the last time you expressed to your partner how you actually feel? When was the last time you told your partner how their constant disparaging attitude makes you feel? When was the last time you told your partner what you need from the relationship? When was the last time you expressed how you feel about your partner’s ideas and thoughts abot you, without gritting your teeth, or rolling your eyes?

One of the main reasons why a couple grows apart in a relationship isn’t because they don’t love or care for each other anymore, but because they don’t honestly express what they truly feel. They suppress their emotions, or one of them feels like they’re actually communicating, while the other feels as if their partner could never understand how they operate and what they feel. How is a relationship expected to work when emotions and feelings are suppressed, and you’re both going through the motions?

5. No communication.

Open, honest communication is one of the biggest aspects that sustains a relationship. If this goes kaput, then you’ve probably grown too complacent in your relationship and haven’t bothered to really talk to your partner. Can you remember the last time you and your partner had an honest conversation, where you both talked and listened to each other intently?

The thing is, over the years, you may have understood and learnt many things about your partner. But this doesn’t get over, because it’s a continuous process through the course of a relationship. Because people change, attitudes change, and your partner probably isn’t the same person you fell in love with all that time ago. When open, honest communication is taken for granted, it’s only a matter of time before the relationship comes to a grinding halt, because you both have grown apart from each other.

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